What an adventure

so our lil guy is 3 weeks old. wow. i didn't realize how tired i would be. he's adorable. and definitely a handful.

i've been battling with postpartum depression and i'm actually on an anti depression medicine called wellbutrin.

river has inherited my acid reflux, and it finally hit him today. he's been spitting up for over a week now, always just a little, but today it's been baaaad. went thru so many onesies. sandy and i are taking turns propping him up on our chests. i'd say lil man has thrown up a good amount about 5 times today, with a few spit ups in between.

i am going to try to keep up with this more but it's tough. i don't even know when i'll be able to take a shower... lol.

cheers to finally being a mom. :-) (oh and when i have the energy, i need to type up my birthing story)

River is here!

Well, he's been here. Born April 2nd, 2011 at 9:39 pm. Weighing in at 8lbs, 13.3oz, and 20.5" long.

Exciting news!!!

OK So Thursday we went to get the sonogram. River is weighing in at... *dun dun duuuunnn* NINE POUNDS, FOUR OUNCES!!! OMG! Yes! Our "lil" man is estimated at a whopping 9lbs, 4 oz. I can't believe it. Well, I can, and I can't. It explains a lot lol. But you can't say this boy isn't getting fed! I mean... WOW.

So we went to see Nancy this week, on Tuesday. And I told her what the sonogram specialist said. Nancy replied "well then we need to have a different conversation," because I wanted to go natural. The plan is..

I'm getting induced TOMORROW. 6am. At Prince George's Hospital.

....wow.

So today is my last full day of being pregnant. At 5am tomorrow, I will be waking up and getting ready to leave for the hospital. And hopefully I will have my baby boy in my arms in the evening. :-)

I'm washing all of his clothes now, something I should of done sooner. But it's keeping me busy. Dishes have been in the sink for about a week now. I just can't stand up to wash them. My feet and back hurt if I'm up for too long.

I looooove using Dreft for his clothes. It makes them so soft and smell so good, even tho it's a very light scent. River has his coming home outfit packed in my suitcase; a onesie, hat, socks, and a blanket. :-) The car seat is installed in my car. We have plenty of diapers and wipes here. Medicine. Lotion. Wash. Pacifiers. His bed is all set up. I'm READY! lol

I think it's funny, I'll sit at the computer and River will move and I can feel my whole body move from him. My breasts have been really sore for a few weeks now. I would say since last Monday my face and feet have ballooned and gotten really swollen. I got out of bed today and my feet screamed in agony from having all this weight put back on them.

I got a mani/pedi on Tuesday. I chose a beautiful blue to be painted on my nails. It looks like a caribbean blue.

yea. this color. ^_^ isn't it gorgeous? and it reminds me of Enya.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1L8uRApYeQ

On that note, I need to download more music for my mp3 player for tomorrow!!! I've been putting it off for too long. Today is my last day home for a few days. Lemme get on that.

River Aiden Smith, I will be seeing you soon!!! Mommy and Daddy love yoooouuuuuu!!!

Almost there!

39 weeks tomorrow! I can officially say I'm due next week! And I am so excited. I'm really looking forward to meeting River.

I've felt him move for so long now, but today was the first time I actually felt his foot! River moved so his butt was more to the right and he stretched out so his foot was on my left side. Usually I figure he's moving deeper inside and I won't be able to feel him, but I put my hand there and sure enough! I felt the outline of a little foot. How exciting!

He moves a lot when I go over to Mom and Dad's. And when he hears his father's voice. And music. And when I sing. And when it's bright out. So pretty much all the time! He's moving right now. I love putting my hand on my stomach and feeling it warp and jump. It's reassuring.

As eager as I am to see him, I know I'm going to miss him being inside me.

But I am just so heavy. Walking is such a challenge right now. I've been missing work because I am just too tired to go in. I really should, but it's so much physically to get my butt in there.

The hot flashes are more severe. Swelling has gone down as I am drinking even more fluids and trying to keep my feet elevated. Friday I went to the mall for a free photoshoot where I purposely parked on the other side of the mall so I could get a good walk in. Saturday I went swimming. It felt amazing, until I tried to pull myself out of the water lol. Yesterday (Monday) Sandy and I went for a walk in the neighborhood. And today I walked from my mechanic to my parents. I'm really trying to make sure this labor goes smoothly.

I still don't have any weird cravings. Weight gain is good. Fundal height is measuring 39 1/2 centimeters, which usually goes along with how many weeks pregnant you are. So I'm measuring half a week farther than I am. I hope this is a good sign lol. My fatigue has increased. My hair is still growing rapidly and I'm having to pluck and cut whiskers and hairs on my face all the time, it seems.

I am getting the Braxton Hicks more frequently. Saturday Sandy and I were walking out of the grocery store and an episode hit me. I could barely walk. I'm worried about real contractions and if they are so much more severe than these, will I be able to go natural? I really hope so...

Sunday was technically my third baby shower, but for Sandy's side of the family. It was so nice. He's really lucky to have all of those people who care about him. I know I have friends, but he has FAMILY. Cousins and aunts and uncles. I mainly have my parents and brother. Sometimes I hear from my godfather and his wife, whom I love dearly. I hope to make his family my own as well, and it looks like it will happen because they all seem to love me :-) We are truly blessed to have so many people who care about us.

And on that note, sleep time. Going for the third sonogram session Thursday to see how big our boy is. I will post those pix after I get them. :-)

Week 39
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 37 Weeks After Conception

Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.

Fetal Development:

Most of the lanugo is gone as the baby prepares for its final womb days. The lungs are maturing and surfactant production is increasing. The baby can't move too much anymore as its womb space has become very crowded. The average size baby is over seven pounds at this point.

Maternal Changes:

Are you feeling huge and clumsy? As the baby settles into your pelvis (lightening), your center of gravity shifts which may make you feel off-balance. The good news is, the uterus isn't pressing on your diaphragm so it's easier to breathe. The bad news is, your uterus is pushing on your bladder so you may be running to the bathroom every two minutes. Your uterus is 6 1/2 to 8 inches above your navel!

Ideas for Dad:

Congratulate yourself Dad! You're almost a father (or father again), and you've survived (almost) the pregnancy. You're probably a nervous wreck or in denial that anything is about to happen, but that's okay. In a few days (weeks), you won't remember what you had for breakfast (or even IF you had breakfast) let alone the anxiety you're having right now. Enjoy these last moments with mom as a couple or as a family of 3 (or 4, whatever your situation is) and pat yourself on the back for being a great dad. After all, if you weren't a great dad, you wouldn't be reading this guide!

StorkNet updates

Week 36
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 34 Weeks After Conception

Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.

Fetal Development:

With four weeks to go, ourbaby is almost ready. S/he could drop into the birth canal at any time now. This week, the fat is dimpling on the elbows and knees as well as forming creases in the neck and wrists. The baby's gums are very rigid. Multiples: Twins may be around 5 pounds now. The National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs (NOMOTC) reports that the average birth weight of a twin is 5 pounds, 5 ounces and arrives between the 36th and 37th week.

Maternal Changes:

About a month to go ~ you'll probably be visiting your care provider once a week at this point. The average weight gainnow is between 25 and 30 pounds. You should be consuming about 2400 calories per day. Make them count! Your body is working hard now and needs quality fuel. If you haven't been tested for Group B Strep, ask your caregiver about it. It's also a good time to take a tour of the hospital/birth facilities if you haven't yet. Multiples: You're probably really ready to get "this over with" as you become increasingly uncomfortable. Discuss your feelings with your doctor. Talk to your local Twins club for support.

Signs of Labor:

Here are some of the signs that labor is approaching. You may not experience all of these symptoms or be aware of them. Visit our Signs of Labor page for more detailed information . . . Lightening ~ aka the baby dropped Bloody Show ~ aka the mucous plug Rupture of Membranes ~ aka your "water broke" The Nesting Urge ~ aka you want to clean everything in sight Effacement ~ aka ripening of the cervix Dilatation ~ aka opening of the cervix Diarrhea ~ aka you know this one Contractions ~ aka OUCH those labor pains!

Ideas for Dad:

It's a bit beyond the scope of this guide to create a parenting"how-to" for newborns. However Dad, there are a few basics you need to know. Yes, you WILL be nervous about picking up a human being that is slightly larger than a football knowing that it is YOUR child. You will NOT be asphyxiated when you change Baby's poopy diaper. Baby's vomit is not toxic waste, and you will NOT die of poisoning when Baby spits up an entire feeding on your new shirt. Seriously, it is nerve-wracking to hold a squirming baby, especially when their little necks are so floppy. The more you hold and handle your baby, the more comfortable you'll become. You should be able to do whatever Mom does for the baby, except of course, breastfeed. You'll develop a deeper bond with Baby and s/he with you by being involved. Week 37 (counting from first day of last menstrual period) Around 35 Weeks After Conception Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider. Fetal Development: Average size is around 6.5 pounds now! The babypractices breathing movements preparing for life outside the womb. His/her grasp becomes firm, and s/he will turn toward light. Multiples: Twins are considered "term" at 37 weeks, and their lanugo will begin to disappear. According to the National Center for Health Statistics, 82% of twins weigh less than 6 pounds, 10 ounces at birth. Be sure to visit our Multiples Mania Cubby for lots of info from multiples parents like yourself! Maternal Changes: Vaginal discharge may be heavier now and will have more cervical mucous in it as your body prepares for labor. What position is your baby in? Is it head down or butt first? Whichever position your baby is in now is generally the way s/he will stay. If your baby is breech, you may need a cesarean or your care provider might recommend an external version in which your abdomen is manipulated in such a way that it turns head down. This is successful 60 to 70% of the time. The baby could come at anytime. Is your hospital bag packed yet? Multiples: You're considered term at 37 weeks for twinpregnancies. If You're Planning to Breastfeed: If you're planning to return to work outside the home at some point after delivery, you can still breastfeed your baby. Many moms pump their breasts at work so that baby's careprovider can feed her with expressed breast milk in bottles. Other moms are able to visit the baby during the day for a few feedings while other others take their babies to work with them. Explore your options BEFORE you go back to work (preferrably before you begin maternity leave). Read our articles: Breastfeeding, Pumping and The Working Mom in our Working Parents Cubby Working It Out; Breastfeeding at Work in our Breastfeeding Cubby Ideas for Dad: Remember the Boy Scout motto "Be Prepared"? Unexpected things happen during labor and delivery so try to plan for as many things as possible while keeping in mind that flexibility is important. Try to have all the little details completed beforehand so you can handle the unexpected events. Just what are these little details? How about . . . hospital registration routes to the hospital mapped out and have more than one route in case a road is blocked for whatever reason know where the entrances to the hospital and the parking lots are located lists of phone numbers written out - you might forget an important person or even their number when you're excited/nervous, etc roll of change for the pay telephone or a battery charger/electric cord for your cell phone (but check with the hospital to see if they'll allow you to use a cell phone inside the hospital - most will not!) mom's hospital bag and whatever YOU need at the hospital (change of clothes in case you come from work, etc) infant carseat IN THE CAR ready to go arrange for who will care for any older children if they aren't attending the birth have the camera, video recorder, etc in the car YIKES! All of those last minute details! With these out of the way, Dad, you can be there for mom so take the initiative and be a good Boy Scout. Be prepared! Week 38 (counting from first day of last menstrual period) Around 36 Weeks After Conception Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider. Fetal Development: The baby may be gaining an ounce a day now. His/her intestines are accumulating lots of meconium (baby's first bowel movement). The circumference of the head and the baby's abdomen are about the same size. Maternal Changes: False labor contractions are irregular and can be very painful. These contractions may be felt in various parts of your body (back, lower abdomen, pelvis). True labor contractions start at the top of your uterus and then spread over the entire uterus, through your lower back and into the pelvis. True labor will become stronger and more painful and won't be alleviated by changing position. Ideas for Dad: You catch a glimpse of Mom's profile and see that big belly . . . and you feel instantly guilty. She's tired, cranky, sick ofpregnancy, can't sleep because she has to get up every 30 minutes to go to the bathroom, has chronic heartburn and indigestion, and her mood is reflective of these late-pregnancy discomforts. You feel responsible, and you know what? You ARE responsible! But let's think about that for a minute. Mom can't conceive without Dad, and Dad can't without Mom. That makes pregnancy a team effort. It's true that you don't have to go through the physical discomforts of pregnancy, but you do have your share of worries and a myriad of conflicting thoughts ~ and you have to watch someone you love change before your very eyes. What's a Dad to do? You know already and that's why you're reading this guide. Just be there for Mom. It's a big job, and you're the best one to do it! You can't bear the brunt of pregnancy physically, but you can help Mom lighten the load considerably. And what do you do when Mom screams at you that "this" is all YOUR fault? Calmly remind her that you couldn't have done it without her part . . . and then run for cover!

I feel like a planet

So I turned 37 weeks Wednesday, March 2. And ugghhh. I'm feeling so cumbersome and huge and tired and bloated and friggin heavy. I'm at the point now where I'm really tired of being pregnant. I no longer have that cute bump. It's huge. You can see my belly button thru my shirt.

Sandy and I went to a child birthing education class at Prince George's Hospital where I will be delivering River. I really want to try and go natural with this. I'm not too good when it comes to prolonged exposures to pain, but for some reason I really want to do this. I saw the birthing room, a place where you're not hooked up to machines and you get to roam around this relaxing room, and it's got a huge walk in shower and a niiiiice bath tub. And if I feel I want the epidural before it's too late, they can take me back to a regular labor and delivery room to get it. I don't want to be hooked to a machine!

River is still really active, but it's starting to hurt more. And I feel like my breathe is taken from me more often that not. I'm always tired and I'm in the nesting phase, so those rare chances I get a burst of energy, I clean. Before, I would look at something and go eeehhhhh I should clean that. Now I look at it and go OMG I NEED TO CLEAN THAT! (when I have the energy, of course lol.)

Well I just wanted to pop in and say a few things before heading to bed. I vacuumed, made dinner (crabcakes, mac n cheese, string beans) and cleaned the bathroom, all pretty much at the same time lol. I cleaned while the food cooked. And I had a nap earlier, which is why I am still awake now. Have to be at work at 7. ugh. My swollen feet are doing better. I'm drinking more water, eating more protein and (trying to) sleep just on my left side. But wouldn't ya know it, I'm more comfortable on my right? And right now, comfort is a word that has slipped from my dictionary. Same with sleep.

Sleep? What's that? I do naps. LOL.

Week 35
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 33 Weeks After Conception

Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.

Fetal Development: The average sized baby is around five and a half pounds now! The fat accumulations plump up the arms and legs this week. The baby has gotten big enough to take up most of the uterus, and there's less room to move around. The testes have completed their descent in males. Maternal Changes: Your care provider may begin regular checks of your cervix some time in the next few weeks for signs of effacement and dilationand to see what position your baby is in. Your baby cannot pass through a normally closed cervix. The process of labor is the stretching, thinning (effacement) and opening (dilation) of your cervix to allow the baby to pass through. Your cervix is fully dilated when the opening measures 10 centimeters.

Ideas for Dad:

It's well into the third trimester. Mom is huge and tired; Dad is nervous and tired. Your sexual habits have probably changed somewhat (a great deal?). Mom's tummy lends itself to discovering new, more comfortable positions for love-making. And since it's hard for Mom to get comfortable at any time, sex may be something confined to your fantasies, Dad. Then again, you may not be in the mood much either. Everyone is different. What do you do when she's not in the mood? How about being close without sex? Hug a lot, hold hands, sleep in the spoon position, and kiss. Give Mom a back rub or a foot massage and remain close. Do something special like polish Mom's toenails. She can't see or reach her toes, and she'll feel nice going to the hospital with pretty toes. These little things will keep you close. The bottom line . . . if you're both in the mood and the pregnancy is progressing well, go for it. Be creative with positions and enjoy. If Mom (or you) isn't in the mood, don't take it personally and don 't push it. Both of you have a lot on your minds which can cool even the most active libido. And remember, most care providers recommend that you abstain from intercourse for three to six weeks after delivery. Be sure to ask your care provider for specifics.

Inspirational Thoughts:

You can either despair that the rose bush has thorns, or you can rejoice that the thorn bush has roses. ~Anonymous me at 34 weeks

Long time, No post!

Wow it's been over a month since I wrote in here. I'm HUGE now. The heartburn and nausea have returned with a vengeance. It feels like I'm back in my first trimester, except with a ginormous stomach. Sandy has to pull me out of bed sometimes so I can go to the bathroom. And I always get stuck in the couch, so he helps me out with that too. If he's not here, I sit on the edge lol

So I am 34 weeks, 3 days today! The baby shower is tomorrow at Jason's Deli in College Park. I'm excited and nervous. I can't believe I'm going to ANOTHER baby shower, but that it's being thrown for ME! It's still hard to grasp the concept that I'm going to be a mom.

Things haven't been so honkey-dorey, tho. Sandy and I have been having issues. What couple doesn't, right? I'm not going into detail, but it was bad, and I had to leave the house and stay with my parents.

Week 29
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 27 Weeks After Conception
Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.


Fetal Development:
The baby's head is in proportion to the rest of the body. Fat continues to accumulate under the skin. The brain can control primitive breathing and body temperature control, and the eyes can move in the sockets. The baby is becoming sensitive to light, sound, taste and smell. Now, I wonder how experts know a baby can smell in utero?
Multiples: Your babies are on the same growth track as singletons at this point.

Maternal Changes:
Do you feel like you've been pregnant forever? Are those discomforts of pregnancy getting to you? This is the time when itchy skin, shortness of breath, hemorrhoids, leg cramps, heartburn and indigestion and achy muscles takes a toll. What do you do? Remember that these annoyances are temporary. Focus on the positive aspects of pregnancy and check out our suggested reading below by Sherry L. M. Jimenez.
Multiples: Fatigue is probably a constant companion. Try to rest when possible; take a nap or put your feet up to keep the edema at bay.


Birth Plans:
You've probably heard a lot about birth plans. No matter what kind of birth you're planning, a written birth plan can be a good idea. In Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn, by Penny Simkin, PT et al, a birth plan is defined as "a list of the options you and your partner prefer for your birth experience." Preparing a birth plan makes you take some time to research and think about your options in some detail which makes you ultimately better prepared. Here are a few sites to help you work on a plan:
Interactive Birth Plan from Childbirth.Org
misc.kids.pregnancy Birth Planning FAQ part one
misc.kids.pregnancy Birth Planning FAQ part two
misc.kids.pregnancy Birth Planning FAQ part three

Week 30
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 28 Weeks After Conception
Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.


Fetal Development:
Our little one is nearly three pounds already and growing like a weed.
The early lanugo is disappearing, the eyelids open and close, and the toenails are growing. The bone marrow is now responsible for red blood cell production.


Maternal Changes:
The best sleeping position for a pregnant woman is on her left side. Your aorta and vena cava are slightly to the right of the center of your back, so laying/sleeping on your left side as much as possible ensures an unobstructed blood flow to your organs and extremities. You may be having some trouble sleeping now. Try one of the many maternity pillows or full-body pillows on the market. Sleeping in a recliner chair might also help, especially when the heartburn gets nasty.

Multiples: Familiarize yourself with the symptoms of pre-eclampsia which is more common in multiple pregnancies than in singleton pregnancies. If you experience severe headache; seeing "spots" or "flashing lights" while at rest; sudden increase in swelling especially of the face; abdominal pain; and nausea, vomiting and feeling sick, contact your doctor immediately.
Feeding Your Baby:
About half of the babies born today in the United States are breastfed which means half are bottle fed. What will you do? For some moms, this is a simple decision; for others, it's very difficult. And it could be that you'll change your mind after baby is born. The best thing to do now is learn about both, do some soul-searching and research.
It isn't the purpose of this guide to debate breastfeeding versus bottle feeding. We do, however, strongly encourage moms to give breastfeeding a try. Even if you switch to formula later, you will have given your baby a terrific start with your breastmilk.

StorkNet's breastfeeding resources:

Breastfeeding Cubby
Ask a Lactation Consultant
Breastfeeding Support
StorkNet's bottle feeding resources:
Bottle Feeding Cubby
Bottle Feeding Support

Ideas for Dad:
The decision on how to feed your baby is mostly up to Mom. However, it's very important for Dad to be supportive of the method chosen. Discuss your feelings with Mom and learn together about the pros and cons. Then lend your full support and encouragement for whatever she decides. If Mom is intending to breastfeed, don't feel left out! Visit our Dads and Breastfeeding info.

Week 31
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 29 Weeks After Conception
Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.


Fetal Development:
Growth begins to slow a teeny bit, and the brain goes through a period of rapid development. The only major organ left to fully develop is the lungs. If your baby is a boy, his testes begin to descend from the body cavity to the scrotum.

Maternal Changes:
Your abdomen may be aching frequently now as your uterus is stretching more and more. Your uterus is about 4 1/2 inches above your belly button with ten weeks to go.

As your baby's bones harden and grow, your calcium needs are even greater. Be sure your diet is adequate in calcium, protein, iron and folic acid
Multiples: If you haven't yet, be sure to have your pediatrician picked out. If the babies come early, you don't want to be left with lots of interview appointments but no doctor. Have you packed your hospital bag yet?

Ideas for Dad:
It's the third trimester and now, more than ever, Mom needs you. She may complain a lot with the growing discomforts of pregnancy. Listen to her with your undivided attention. Help her relax in the evening by rubbing her back and feet. We've talked about this in previous weeks but Mom just needs you to be there for her. As simple as this sounds, it can be difficult at times. Remember that doing what you can for Mom is also your first parenting steps for your child.


Week 32
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 30 Weeks After Conception
Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.


Fetal Development:
The baby is up to four pounds now and all five senses are functional. The toenails are completely formed and the hair on the head continues to grow.
Multiples: This is the time when twins begin to gain weight a little slower than singletons. The babies are very cramped now.


Maternal Changes:
You may be visiting your care provider every two weeks at this point. Your uterus is measuring about 5 inches above your navel and is pushing your organs every which way causing heartburn, constipation, indigestion and breathlessness. Drink lots of water and eat adequate fiber to ease the constipation and eat frequent small meals to help the heartburn and indigestion.

Multiples: Your hips are spreading and your pelvic ligaments are stretching. Braxton Hicks contractions are probably getting stronger. At 32 weeks, the size of your uterus with twins is the same as a 40-week singleton pregnancy!

Ideas for Dad:
If you've chosen not to find out which gender your baby is, you may be trying to guess based on Old Wives Tales. Or, your friends and relatives may be telling you what they think your baby is. Some of these theories can be really fun. For example, if Dad is more nervous, a daughter is on the way. If he's more relaxed, it's a boy. If Dad is getting lots of household projects done, a boy is coming. If Dad isn't doing more projects, it's a girl. If Dad gains weight with Mom, it's a boy. If he stays the same weight-wise, it's a girl. So Dad? What's it gonna be?


Week 33
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 31 Weeks After Conception
Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.


Fetal Development:
At this point, the amniotic fluid is at the highest level in the pregnancy. The amount will remain constant until delivery. Rapid brain growth has increased the baby's head size approximately 3/8 of an inch this week. Fat continues to accumulate which turns the baby's skin color from red to pink.
Multiples: The confined space restricts the babies' movements somewhat so movement may not feel as intense but should be as frequent.

Maternal Changes:
You'll be gaining about a pound a week. Mild edema is normal but if you experience severe headache; seeing "spots" or "flashing lights" while at rest; sudden increase in swelling, such as over 2-3 days, especially of the face; abdominal pain; and nausea, vomiting, and feeling sick, contact your caregiver immediately. You could be developing pre-eclampsia which is characterized by swelling, high blood pressure and protein in the urine. It is a very serious complication of pregnancy.
Multiples: Your appetite may be decreasing as your stomach is cramped for space.


Circumcision:
If you're having a son, you will be confronted with the decision regarding circumcision after birth. This has become a HOT topic in recent years, and it isn't the purpose of this guide to debate the issues. Finding good unbiased information is almost impossible, however, on the internet. Circumcision is a personal decision that parents need to make based on their own preferences/beliefs. As always, StorkNet advocates making an informed decision.
Start thinking about your feelings now and educating yourself on the facts. You'll be asked to sign a consent form either when you register at the hospital or when you are admitted in labor. Knowing your desires beforehand will save you from making a hasty uninformed decision at the last minute.


Ideas for Dad:
Mom has probably been working on a birth announcement list. If you haven't helped out and given her a list of those you want to receive an announcement such as relatives, friends and co-workers, now is a good time to get started.

Week 34
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 32 Weeks After Conception
Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.


Fetal Development:
The baby responds as a newborn with its eyes open while awake and closed while sleeping. S/he is developing immunities to fight mild infection. Those sharp little fingernails are at the ends of the fingertips already, and you might need to clip them during the first few days after birth.
Multiples: The positions that your babies are in are likely to stay that way as they are so confined, they can't move around much.

Which positions are your babies in? With a multiple pregnancy, you can have a myriad of configurations: less than 50% of twins are both born headfirst. One twin is vertex (head down) and one is breech (lower part of the body comes first) about 40% of the time. One (or more) can also be transverse (baby lies across Mom's pelvis). The McCaughey septuplets were in a pyramid configuration. As the babies get bigger, it's harder for them to move much to get into the proper birthing position. Your care provider will probably want to do an ultrasound(s) to determine presentation so that delivery plans can be made.


Maternal Changes:
You've probably felt some Braxton Hicks contractions for the past several weeks but they may intensify now. They are usually painless and non-rhythmical. These are preparing your body for the real thing.
If you haven't already, it's time to start the selection process for a pediatrician.

Multiples: Labor will begin in the majority of twin pregnancies before 37 weeks with 50% of deliveries between 34 and 37 weeks. Are you ready?


If You're Planning to Breastfeed:
Although breastfeeding is the most natural way to feed your little one, babies are not born knowing how to breastfeed and many women in today's society have never seen a woman breastfeed before. One of the keys of getting off to a good start is through knowledge and a bit of preparation. Read what you can about breastfeeding before your baby arrives. Check with your hospital/birthing center or careprovider for local breastfeeding support groups. Visit our Breastfeeding Cubby for lots of "getting started" information and recommended books. You're even welcome to pop into our Breastfeeding Support forum before your baby arrives to ask our veteran moms questions. If you're expecting twins or more, we have lots of breastfeeding information for you too!

Ideas for Dad:
Mom is feeling huge and clumsy now. She may be weepy and vulnerable or extremely moody. Tell her how beautiful she is and what a wonderful mom she'll be. Serve her breakfast in bed and help her feel like the special woman she is.

Happy New Year!

So it's a brand new year. And I know for sure it's going to be filled with many new experiences, especially with the birth of my son! I am in my third trimester now; I turned 7 months on Wednesday, December 28th. That's 28 weeks! Which means (now) I have less than 12 weeks left. Holy crapola. lol.

I didn't spend bringing in the new year with Sandy. He actually had to work so I would of been at home alone. Instead, I came up to Pennsylvania to visit Cindy and spend some quality time with her while I can. Monday, swim team is off break and it's back to the grind with practices and meets. End of February is when that'll end, and I'm due March 24th, so I honestly don't know if I'll be able to see her before River comes. If she comes to see me, that's a different story. And she knows she can crash at our place for a couple-few nights.

This year is going to be about my family. I've already hardened my heart to those who I thought I could trust, so I can spend all my energy on my baby! The baby shower might be sometime this month.. I'm hoping. Sandy's friends Mike and Mark, their wives are throwing me the shower, which is SUPER nice of them. I told Jen (Mikes wife) at her son, Mason's, birthday party in November that I was looking for a place to throw the baby shower, and she goes "What do you mean, YOU'RE looking for a place?" I shrugged and said "Uh I dunno.. I just am. I was gonna do it myself." She replied "Your friends aren't throwing you a shower?" I said "No..." Jen rolled her eyes and said "Don't worry; Sandy's friends will take care of you. We've got you covered!" I didn't know what to say except 'thanks' lol.

I got my nails done yesterday. My toes are a soft purple color with flower paintings on my big toes. Oh the pedicure was amazing. I told her I wanted a manicure too but she just did my nails and didn't do the whole softening and massaging bit. :-( Next time I will be more forceful! I wanted just an acrylic overlay on my nails, but they were too short, so I got tips, and they painted em the same purple. My finger nails kinda hurt because they take a thing, I can't remember the word to it, and file down the tops of your nails so the acrylic stuff REALLY sticks...... BUFFER! haha. That's it. Makes it kinda hard to type. I think I'll go back right before the baby shower and get a cute baby blue ^_^. After I got home, tho, I felt so incredibly guilty for spending money on myself. It's been a long time since I've done that. I mean, the past couple months have been about getting gifts for people for the holidays. I cried so hard when I got home, it felt like I had just killed someone. My chest felt so heavy and I felt so burdened. All for getting my friggin nails done! Sandy consoled me and told me I NEEDED to do something nice for myself. I replied that I know but still... *shrugs* I guess I'll just blame it on hormones again. lol.

The past couple nights I've been having crazy dreams. Well, I always have crazy dreams, it's just that sometimes I don't remember them. Thursday night I dreamt that River had stretched his arm out and I could see it when I look down. Then he moved it from the right to the left, and it stuck out so far, I could put my hand around his, even though there was my flesh in the way. Last night was super cool. I dreamt that I was in the womb with River and watched him as he moved his fingers and opened and closed his mouth. His eyes were closed, so I guess he was sleeping. I could hear my heart beat as I floated in the amniotic fluid with him. I saw the umbilical cord come from his belly and disappear behind him where I know it attached to me. Oh it was so friggin cool. It was like something out of a documentary. I'll never forget how his little fingers looked as his hand was close to his face. I should sketch it out while the dream is still fresh.

Sandy has been really good to me. We go through our moments here and there, and I honestly think things are triggered because I'm pregnant and am somewhat emotionally unstable. I love him so much and I'm so happy to bringing his son into this world. He's going to be an awesome dad.

Ok time for symptoms! I'm super hungry all the time. A few hours will go by and it feels like I haven't eaten in DAYS. River will start kicking me, and normally that's ok. But his head is down, which means his hands are close, and he punches my bladder and sends this painful, almost burning shockwave through my urethra. It's like my bladder is a punching bag or something! lol.

Also, because pregnant women need to get their teeth checked all the time while expecting, I now have two unfinished root canals on either side of my mouth! The left one is especially painful, but the right one is ok for the most part, except the friggin temporary filling keeps coming out! This is the second time that some of it has come out, and food keeps getting caught up in there. And now I can't dig it out cuz I got my nails done and it won't fit in the cavity lol.

I'm starting to feel more like a planet too. My mom got me a maternity belt, and it's fine when I stand, but when I sit, the support piece in the back binds and digs into me! It hurts! So I don't wear it.

I've tried using different lotions and things for my stretch marks, and I've finally found something that works. Palmer's Cocoa Butter Formula Belly Butter, with Vitamin E and Soothing Lavender. My stretch marks are getting better, and turning from red/purple to a pale color. And they're not as deep. At first it looked like someone had clawed up the sides of my hips. Now they're just little marks. :-)

I had a headache Thursday; the first one in weeks! I think the secret is water! I need to make sure I keep myself super hydrated and I think the headaches and migraines will stay away.

My hands and feet are starting to swell a little. When I take my ankle socks off at the end of the day, theres an impression around my ankles and they throb. It sometimes feels like someone has tied dental floss around my ankles!
My uterus is so big now that it's pressing against my lungs, making it very hard to move around easily. I get winded so often, I feel like an obese person lol I also have to use my arms way more to get me out of couches and beds. Sometimes it feels like I'm using my muscles to the max and they might collapse under me! Then I'd be really stuck lol

Cindy got to watch River move around in my belly last night. Saw him "roll," which means saw him push out at one part and move to another part while still pushing. That's what my dream was about the other night, except in my dream River was pushing out waaaayyy more lol. The more I feel this baby move, the more I love him. Sandy and I have really created life, and it's growing inside of me! <3>

Week 28
(counting from first day of last menstrual period)
Around 26 Weeks After Conception

Please keep in mind that this information is approximate. Each pregnancy is different and growth rates vary. If you have any questions, please check with your care provider.

Fetal Development:

Our little miracle is growing and developing at an astonishing rate! Eyebrows and eyelashes are now present, and the hair on the head is growing. The eyelids open, and the eyes are completely formed. The body is getting plumper and rounder (weighs about 2 pounds) and is composed of around 2 to 3% body fat. Muscle tone is gradually improving. The lungs are capable of breathing air but if the baby is born now, it would struggle to properly breathe. Be sure to talk to your baby a lot because s/he can recognize your voice now! Multiples: If born now, your babies have a 90% chance for survival. Let's hope they stay put for awhile though!

Maternal Changes:

Welcome to the third trimester ~ the period of leg cramps, hemorrhoids, varicose veins, itchy skin, aches and pains, swelling, heartburn, indigestion and . . . your baby's arrival! Your uterus is around 3 inches above your navel; average weight gain is between 17 and 24 pounds at this point. If you haven't had a glucose tolerance test yet to test for gestational diabetes, your care provider may order one this week. Multiples: You're probably feeling really heavy now with lots of pelvic pressure and backaches. It probably feels like the babies are sitting on your rectum and bladder - and they are! Warm baths can help. Be good to yourself and gets lots of help.

Third Trimester Careprovider Appointments:

In routine pregnancies, your health-care provider appointments may be every two weeks from week 28 to 36, with weekly appointments from week 36 until delivery. During these appointments, your doctor/midwife will check the size and height of your uterus to be certain your baby is growing appropriately. Your weight and blood pressure will be checked as well as your urine for signs of infection, sugar, and protein. As the due date approaches, the baby's position is checked and vaginal exams are performed to check for cervical dilatation. If any high-risk situations are noted (pre-eclampsia, PIH - Pregnancy-Induced Hypertension, gestational diabetes,placenta previa), care provider visits will be more frequent and more tests may be advised. Be sure to take a list of questions and concerns to your appointments. It's normal to have questions and worries about labor this trimester so don't be shy! Ask! Ask! Ask!

Ideas for Dad:

It's the last trimester! Go out and celebrate with a special date to shop for something for the baby or a few maternity outfits for Mom. Treat Mom to an olive oil tummy massage or foot massage.This isn't an easy trimester for Mom. Dad's support can go a long way to make it easier. Stay involved Dad! You're needed more than ever now.